The good news is that for the first time Chelsea was actually honest about needing help. Monday she has an appointment at the health department and then they're going to Social Services and get her Medicaid. She can take all her old medicines except one without hurting the baby, and so once she gets Medicaid she'll start back on them. That is excellent because on the meds, Chelsea's a normal human being.
Mom told her that if she raged again she was going to get arrested, and the cop who was here today also said she'd arrest her on the spot if she had to come back.
I'm nauseous. Yet relieved that Chelsea managed to tell the truth for the first time in a very long time.
Prayers are still needed. This is far from over.
Mallory ~ I know you don't know me...but what you have to realize is that as long as you are in that house, you will deal with these repercussions. Your mom is truly a huge part of the problem here. She called the police to have them remove Chelsea from the house, and then tonight, she's picking her up from the hospital because she promises to see a Doctor?
ReplyDeleteThis is my unsolicited opinion, based on dealing w/ people like your sister, IF the hospital is discharging her then SHE needs to figure out where she is going to stay, NOT come back to your mothers home.
I truly hope that your mother gets the help she needs to be able to "do the right thing" for your sister. I hope that you are seeing a counselor also.
I'm still praying for you guys.
I agree with Queen of Chaos wholeheartedly... I think you'll find that leaving for college will put some distance between you and these issues, and although I'm sure the news will still trickle to you, you won't be in the direct path of all these disturbances.
ReplyDeleteI think this will make a big difference.
It does sound as though your mom needs to put her foot down and take a "tough love" approach with your sister. I look at the hell my mom went through too, though, and I know that it's often easier said than done... so I'm going to continue praying for your mom, your sister, your family to get the help they need, and that this pregnancy may become a great turning point for Chelsea.
Hugs!
Mallory,
ReplyDeleteI came to your blog from MckMama's forum. I have actually looked at it once before. I am also a college student and found it interetesting to see another girl my age interested in the blog world. I do not personally write a blog (a long time ago I wrote on a LJ) Now enough about me!
This situation you are in seems so incredibly difficult. I pray that God will give you strength. I think God put you in your family to be light. Stay strong girl!
I am sorry that I do not have any advice to offer you, but I hope you find this to be an encouragement!
-Kimmy
PS I find that in emotionally stressing times music that reminds me of God's presence helps me cope. Check out a band called Addison Road if you are interested!
Hey Mallory
ReplyDeleteI got your email and wanted to say thanks for writing.
There is an awesome book that I highly recommend to you, it's called "Boundaries". It truly opened my eyes to what I was allowing to happen to me in my family of origin. It would also be great for your Mom to read also. There is a workbook that you can get with it as well. The book is carried at all bookstores and also Christian bookstores.
Hi Mal, I totally agree with JD. I pray that this baby will be a positive turning point in Chelsea's life.
ReplyDeleteFor you I am praying that once you get to college, you will be so involved and busy that the sadness of your sisters' lives will fade a bit and you will be able and allowed (allow yourself) to concentrate on Mallory alone. Keep your eye on YOUR future and your focus on the LORD and I just know that you will be well.
Mallory,
ReplyDeleteI Can't say I know how hard this is for you from a sisters point of view, but I CAN tell you I know how hard this is from a MOMS point of view. My son is mentally ill. I don't know what your sisters diagnosis is but the pain,fear,frustration,chaos,unsettled,uneasy,scared feelings are the same.
A mom loves her child unconditionally, and a mom is always more understanding of her own childs faults and disabilities. As the sister of a mentally ill person your roll is a little different. You have to be more understanding of her faults but you don't always have to give into her demands, or play into her chaos.
She needs your love and understanding,your compassion and forgivness.When shes back on her meds and seeing a therapist chances are she won't remember everything she has done or said. If you can't move on and forgive her, she can't move on either. Its not easy having a sister that is different,You always feel as if you don't get enough attention even when your busting your butt to do good, and your sister is getting all the attention for not doing the right thing.
I understand, and if theres one thing I could tell you that might make a difference it would be for you to find someone to talk to about how YOU feel.A therapist,psycologist,preacher,pastor....someone that you can talk to about how YOU feel and how it affects YOUR life.....
If you ever want to talk you can leave a comment on my blog.....good luck.....