tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048018311887818767.post3467377162647448573..comments2024-03-16T20:02:30.184-04:00Comments on Beauty in the Breakdown: So much for 72 hours.Malloryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05659818100539257348noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048018311887818767.post-5516439081522785582009-07-26T15:30:34.342-04:002009-07-26T15:30:34.342-04:00Mallory,
I Can't say I know how hard this is...Mallory,<br /><br /> I Can't say I know how hard this is for you from a sisters point of view, but I CAN tell you I know how hard this is from a MOMS point of view. My son is mentally ill. I don't know what your sisters diagnosis is but the pain,fear,frustration,chaos,unsettled,uneasy,scared feelings are the same.<br /> A mom loves her child unconditionally, and a mom is always more understanding of her own childs faults and disabilities. As the sister of a mentally ill person your roll is a little different. You have to be more understanding of her faults but you don't always have to give into her demands, or play into her chaos.<br /> She needs your love and understanding,your compassion and forgivness.When shes back on her meds and seeing a therapist chances are she won't remember everything she has done or said. If you can't move on and forgive her, she can't move on either. Its not easy having a sister that is different,You always feel as if you don't get enough attention even when your busting your butt to do good, and your sister is getting all the attention for not doing the right thing.<br /> I understand, and if theres one thing I could tell you that might make a difference it would be for you to find someone to talk to about how YOU feel.A therapist,psycologist,preacher,pastor....someone that you can talk to about how YOU feel and how it affects YOUR life.....<br /><br /> If you ever want to talk you can leave a comment on my blog.....good luck.....Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02578518387682893252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048018311887818767.post-76406819950384683312009-07-26T14:28:00.163-04:002009-07-26T14:28:00.163-04:00Hi Mal, I totally agree with JD. I pray that this...Hi Mal, I totally agree with JD. I pray that this baby will be a positive turning point in Chelsea's life.<br /><br />For you I am praying that once you get to college, you will be so involved and busy that the sadness of your sisters' lives will fade a bit and you will be able and allowed (allow yourself) to concentrate on Mallory alone. Keep your eye on YOUR future and your focus on the LORD and I just know that you will be well.A human kind of humanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12944399986334367708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048018311887818767.post-21309447240205228072009-07-25T22:49:51.606-04:002009-07-25T22:49:51.606-04:00Hey Mallory
I got your email and wanted to say th...Hey Mallory<br /><br />I got your email and wanted to say thanks for writing. <br /><br />There is an awesome book that I highly recommend to you, it's called "Boundaries". It truly opened my eyes to what I was allowing to happen to me in my family of origin. It would also be great for your Mom to read also. There is a workbook that you can get with it as well. The book is carried at all bookstores and also Christian bookstores.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048018311887818767.post-69140086039445798352009-07-25T22:25:52.288-04:002009-07-25T22:25:52.288-04:00Mallory,
I came to your blog from MckMama's f...Mallory,<br /><br />I came to your blog from MckMama's forum. I have actually looked at it once before. I am also a college student and found it interetesting to see another girl my age interested in the blog world. I do not personally write a blog (a long time ago I wrote on a LJ) Now enough about me! <br /><br />This situation you are in seems so incredibly difficult. I pray that God will give you strength. I think God put you in your family to be light. Stay strong girl! <br /><br />I am sorry that I do not have any advice to offer you, but I hope you find this to be an encouragement!<br /><br />-Kimmy<br /><br />PS I find that in emotionally stressing times music that reminds me of God's presence helps me cope. Check out a band called Addison Road if you are interested!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048018311887818767.post-12945943125330848012009-07-25T21:45:26.230-04:002009-07-25T21:45:26.230-04:00I agree with Queen of Chaos wholeheartedly... I t...I agree with Queen of Chaos wholeheartedly... I think you'll find that leaving for college will put some distance between you and these issues, and although I'm sure the news will still trickle to you, you won't be in the direct path of all these disturbances. <br /><br />I think this will make a big difference. <br /><br />It does sound as though your mom needs to put her foot down and take a "tough love" approach with your sister. I look at the hell my mom went through too, though, and I know that it's often easier said than done... so I'm going to continue praying for your mom, your sister, your family to get the help they need, and that this pregnancy may become a great turning point for Chelsea.<br /><br /><br /><br />Hugs!JDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05692603062067512190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4048018311887818767.post-58717088144493441932009-07-25T21:39:38.694-04:002009-07-25T21:39:38.694-04:00Mallory ~ I know you don't know me...but what ...Mallory ~ I know you don't know me...but what you have to realize is that as long as you are in that house, you will deal with these repercussions. Your mom is truly a huge part of the problem here. She called the police to have them remove Chelsea from the house, and then tonight, she's picking her up from the hospital because she promises to see a Doctor? <br /><br />This is my unsolicited opinion, based on dealing w/ people like your sister, IF the hospital is discharging her then SHE needs to figure out where she is going to stay, NOT come back to your mothers home. <br /><br />I truly hope that your mother gets the help she needs to be able to "do the right thing" for your sister. I hope that you are seeing a counselor also. <br /><br />I'm still praying for you guys.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com